Your comment about “Most important of all, think about what you do want to say, and not about what you don’t want to say.” reminds me of this article I read recently about how hard it is for our brain to actually ‘forget’ what we don’t want to think about (or don’t want to say in relation to our message). http://www.newscientist.com/article/mg20427392.100-footinmouth-syndrome-pitfalls-of-the-party-season.html